Dirk_Diggly said: Hmmm. My relationships are usually only one-night stands, friends with benefits, or fuck buddies. Even if I catch feelings for someone, I just think of them as a lover that I, well, love. I haven't had a boyfriend or any kind of significant other in almost a decade, and the boyfriends I did have were not nearly as interested in sex as I was.

So in my case, I haven't gotten to try out as many fantasies and kinks as I would like because that trust isn't there. I'm not going to let a stranger tie me up, for example. I won't let a stranger spank me with any implement that could inflict real damage (e.g., wooden paddle, riding crop with metal base).