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Member Since: 23-Nov-22
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Advice for lasting longer & confidence
Hi,

So im 25 now and feel like the longer this goes on the worse I get.

Basically when I lost my V when I was 18 I didn’t last very long (expected), but I still for some reason lost confidence and felt like it was embarrassing. Then ever since I’ve completely put off getting with girls knowing I’m self conscious to have sex about possibly not lasting long again. I’ve had sex with 3 other girls since then but all when I’ve been blackout drunk so can’t remember it anyways and still don’t last long cause it’s always been such big gaps between the last time so it goes straight off.

I know I’m a half good looking guy and should have the confidence but just don’t have it, and can’t seem to get it. I’ve struggled to get in relationships etc because I know sex is part of it (which I desperately want), but always have this issue in the back of my head eating away.

I have a very high sex drive to go with this, and a very open minded adventurous mind where I think about lots of things I’d like to try etc but how can I, if I don’t have the confidence.

Any tips people, for 1) lasting longer 2) building confidence

Thanks smile

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Loss of confidence
Hi Hi: I have no idea how to restore your confidence in the bedroom. I've never heard of this one before and I've been our here for more than fifteen years. I think that the idea is to enjoy the ride from the first piece of clothing we take off until we're both satiated by orgasms. Maybe a small amount of alcohol would calm you down. Black-out drunk is way too much alcohol. That's all I can think of at the moment. bounce jerk bounce

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Julieannfringe said: Hi Hi: I have no idea how to restore your confidence in the bedroom. I've never heard of this one before and I've been our here for more than fifteen years. I think that the idea is to enjoy the ride from the first piece of clothing we take off until we're both satiated by orgasms. Maybe a small amount of alcohol would calm you down. Black-out drunk is way too much alcohol. That's all I can think of at the moment. bounce jerk bounce


It’s definitely an odd one. Like I do go out and chat to girls confidence at that part is fine and normal. But I haven’t had a sex since 2019, so not got much confidence in myself so always avoid it which is weird cause I have a high sex drive and very dirty mind. But I just doubt myself of not lasting long, embarrassing myself etc. because it’s been so long and I know everyone else has sex regular and had it a lot where I haven’t I feel like I’m now inexperienced so would not deliver what someone would probably want expect from me, and not pleasure someone how they deserve.

I guess my hope is to meet someone im comfortable with, and then once we have regular sex I’ll build confidence as I go and hopefully perform good

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Jack off first.
Subsequent orgasms will take a little more work. You could even jack off for her to watch if she’s into that. At your age you should be able to get it up at least twice more. Show off on cam for people, the feedback may boost your confidence and learning how to control it on cam surely can’t hurt. Whatever you do, don’t think about Julie’s nipples, you’ll cum in a heartbeat.

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bimarriedbottom said: Subsequent orgasms will take a little more work. You could even jack off for her to watch if she’s into that. At your age you should be able to get it up at least twice more. Show off on cam for people, the feedback may boost your confidence and learning how to control it on cam surely can’t hurt. Whatever you do, don’t think about Julie’s nipples, you’ll cum in a heartbeat.


Thanks for the advice the cam idea is definitely a good one actually, it’s easy to fun quickly on your own. But doing it infront of an audience should definitely help with improving length of time performing hopefully

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I’ve always felt like I come too fast also. To make up for it I would go down on my wife until she couldn’t take it any more. Now I crave eating her pussy as long as she’ll let me. She seems pretty happy with the arrangement 😛😛😛

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Lasting longer.
Learn how to edge yourself when stroking. Keep yourself from having an Orgasm for a long time.
Be happy with what you have in a cock size and learn how to give pleasure to a female. Learn all about her pleasure zones.
Paul

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Bag the alcohol. Cocks prefer sobriety. Mine does.

Watch some porn. Observe how the pros do it.

Radio personality Howard Stern once said he learned a lot about having sex from watching porn. I think there is something to that. I learned a lot from watching porn, too. Although a lot of the porn guys may be using boner pills (which apparently help with stamina) and some of the porn stuff it a bit over the top, and there is always the cut and paste filming method to make sex acts look longer than they were in reality, there are pornos out there where you can learn a lot about how it's done.

All of those guys in the porn vids were virgins once. They had to learn how to gain stamina as much as any other guy. The point is to take the time to figure it out.

And last but not least, a lot of it is your partner. Some women will make you feel more at ease, and that helps.

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Was she disappointed?
You said you were disappointed with how long you lasted, but did she say anything? Sounds like you are putting a lot of expectations on yourself to be a good lover. But like anything else being good at sex takes practice. Getting black out drunk is one of the worst things to do if you want to be a good lover. You might want to consider seeing a sex therapist. There might be something else bothering you. Don't let this fester or things will just get worse. Good luck.

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In all Honesty
I doubt anyone you were with was disappointed and I promise any woman that is in love with you will make sure you cum enough to last long enough.

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ace15 said: You said you were disappointed with how long you lasted, but did she say anything? Sounds like you are putting a lot of expectations on yourself to be a good lover. But like anything else being good at sex takes practice. Getting black out drunk is one of the worst things to do if you want to be a good lover. You might want to consider seeing a sex therapist. There might be something else bothering you. Don't let this fester or things will just get worse. Good luck.


I think you’re right that I overthink and put a lot of pressure on myself which definitely makes things worse. But no nobody has said they’re disappointed, but at the same I think is that them just being nice cause realistically a girl wants to be pleasured too, and in a minute that’s not going to happen

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Candy52958 said: I doubt anyone you were with was disappointed and I promise any woman that is in love with you will make sure you cum enough to last long enough.


Yep I just need to find the right person, and I think that will be the game changer

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Candy52958 said: I doubt anyone you were with was disappointed and I promise any woman that is in love with you will make sure you cum enough to last long enough.


Yep I just need to find the right person, and I think that will be the game changer

I promise that is the answer.

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AnonymousD9 said:
Candy52958 said: I doubt anyone you were with was disappointed and I promise any woman that is in love with you will make sure you cum enough to last long enough.


Yep I just need to find the right person, and I think that will be the game changer

ive heard and experienced guys cum fast...
guys see this as something bad, its a bodily reaction out of your control
but you can train it and for that you need a woman
(there are tecnics when masturbating, but im guessing you dont have issues there)
i have NEVER heard any woman laugh at this, why would we??
any woman would wanna help or just keep going if you can come more than once


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